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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dear friend,

I am so sorry that when you said your kid was speech delayed at 14 months I said, "I didn't talk until I was 3."  It is true and I kicked myself the moment it slipped out.  I know it was insensitive.  I have been kicking myself ever since and I am sorry if I made you feel bad.  I love your DS and you.  Please don't hold it against me.

Signed,
Well-meaning Mom, really.

So sorry for all these things you have heard.  Sometimes people like me blurt out inanities without thinking first.  If it makes you feel better, I feel remorse afterwards....maybe excessively so since I am still cringing months later.[/quote]

Another person chiming in the say you are awesome for writing this. I actually didn't mind when people said this to me. It gave me hope. In fact, I read the book [i]The Einstein Syndrome [/i]over and over. There was something to it. My kid is on the spectrum and like those kids ended up advanced in some areas. The thing is those kids all most likely were on the spectrum though according to the book most were not. For the Einstein was a late talker folks...it is speculated Einstein was on the spectrum too. I realize there are typical people like you who talk late too though.

My only suggestion is, if you find yourself regretting saying something maybe ask the person if she found it offensive and apologize. I put my foot in my mouth a few times before I had my child with SN and I now really wish I had confessed it all came out wrong and I wish I could take back what I said. It would mean a lot to me to know people regretted saying things to me. I keep my hurt to myself because I hate when people without children with SN respond that you are waaaaay too sensitive. Just adds salt to the wound. Easier to act like it's NBD and cry in my car.[/quote]

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