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[quote=Anonymous]Just had my baby removed via D&C because its heart stopped beating, after I'd heard it.  To say I'm heartbroken is not even to touch the surface of what I'm feeling.  There were THREE confirming ultrasounds throughout to make absolutely sure that my child was lost before we did the procedure.

To expect someone who is being deprived of a cherished child, or whose child has DIED, so that her D&C was a tragedy, crying the whole time, to sympathize with someone who KILLED her living child with a beating heart for inconvenience, is beyond unreasonable.

No one is saying it shouldn't be legal but do not expect someone who is desperately wondering why she lost her child, to have anything but disgust for someone who went in for the same procedure, knowing full well that child was alive and had every reason to be born healthy.

I'm pro-choice as a policy but don't ask me to sympathize when my tragedy was the deliberate choice of someone--who went to the doctor, got the anesthetic, and then had a live baby sucked out of her.  Do not expect me to hang out, be a friend

No one is disputing her right to do it.  But how can you expect sympathy or understanding for the "inconvenience" of birth control to be followed by the "convenience" of surgically removing a child with a beating heart from someone whose own heart was just ripped out with her child's dead body?

It's easy to see though, how someone in her 30s who could kill the baby for inconvenience could be so callous as to share that information with her friend who is struggling to love and cherish a baby in her body.

Abortion rights should absolutely be protected but do we have to run around and pretend it's a positive thing, and go and celebrate for our friends who do it, at the SAME TIME we are either unable to get pregnant, or worse, LOSE a desired pregnancy?

Pollyanna posters, please share your secrets of Zen and comforting relativism here, so we can comfort people who are careless with something that is THE most cherished dream that we have when dealing with infertility.  [/quote]

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