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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I earn about $100k working full time with a flexible schedule. I don't hate my job but don't love it. There are very few jobs in my field in the DC area. I have 2 young children and really want to be there for them when they start elementary school. I would love for one parent to be able to pick up the kids when school ends everyday. DH outearns me by a lot. He earns about $500k now but could probably earn $700-$1 million if he put in the hours.

Every other day I want to quit my job. I used to be very ambitious but my priorities have changed. My children are my #1 priority. I'm fairly certain I can find some sort of part time work/volunteer work.

Would you quit your full time job if you were me?
Anyone regret quitting your job to stay home?[/quote]

I'd consider part-time options before I considered going cold-turkey. I used to be in a stressful, long-hours job where I thought that it would be much better to be at home full-time than to work, but what I realized is it was the job that was doing crazy things to me, not an actual desire to stay at home. My H earns about what yours earns, and combined, we earn slightly more, but in a million years I would never consider quitting and staying at home full-time. Think about all of the positives of working: you get out of the house and have a life and an identity that revolves around being more than a mom; you can support yourself and your kids if, god forbid, your husband leaves you and/or has a health crisis (I know SAHMs seem never to consider these issues, but, as evidenced by many posts on THIS board, it's a pretty obvious problem); and you keep yourself marketable for when your kids get older, which will be sooner than you think.

I don't understand the posters here that can't imagine why women wouldn't work if they "don't need to." [b]It would be a real shame if everyone that came from, or achieved, some measure of wealth felt they didn't need to contribute anything to society.[/b] The choices aren't: stay home if you can afford to, or go to work if you can't. They should be flipped,[b] in my view: go to work if you are achieving something that brings benefit to your family (and that includes benefits beyond financial) or others; or stay home if you have no other good options[/b].[/quote]

Your comments are as ignorant as the SAHM who claimed WOHM shouldn't have had kids if they didn't want to "raise" them. Newsflash: SAHMs [i]are[/i] contributing to society and many do it because they prefer to be the one who is home with their children instead of hiring a 3rd party to help during working hours, not because they have no other good options. Many sacrifice to make this choice, but do so because it is a decision that works for their family. For both SAHM and WOHM, some make their choice b/c they have to and others b/c they want to. There are positives and negatives to all of our decisions and we're all just doing the best that we can to help our families thrive. All of us are contributing to "society," regardless of whether we work out of the home, work from home, work part-time, or stay at home during traditional "working hours" with our children. Give it a rest already.  [/quote]

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