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[quote=Anonymous]Is there an update on this thread somewhere?  If so, I would love to read it...
Reading the ages of the kids kind of did me in honestly.  You couldnt have had those children biologically they are so close together and on top of one another.  No wonder you are tired. 
I can see how you start doing something for all the right reasons and then with the stress of MIL and the illness and the family dealing with all that goes into treatments etc you dont want to complain but 4 months is too long and especially if you have made it clear this is too much for you.  It would be too much for 99% of the people I know.  And the fact that she cant take your kids or chip in to give YOU some time or a break is ridiculous. I dont see why she cant help out on Sat or Sun for example for some hours to give you some sanity.  Money is one thing but time is another.  
Also, if you werent a SAHM I suppose they would have had to scramble and rearrange their bills, right?  Like most people IMO they should have downgraded their cars, sold some stuff, cut all cable, eating out, cell, whatever they had to to arrange proper child care.  The gravy train was nice while it lasted sure but there is an END clearly.  
I also agree that your husband should have put his foot down on this one after 6-8 weeks.  He should see this is too much on you AND certainly taking away from your own children and the attention they should be getting.  You are practically running a day care all by yourself.  And FWIW I am sure she is doing it this way because she is cheap and selfish but think about your own kids - would you drop them off at a daycare where the owner was all alone with 5 kids with those ages AND looked overstressed and worn out? I wouldn't. I am not saying you arent doing a stellar job given the circumstances but it IS a lot to handle and there are rules about how many kids can be watched by one person. 
I dont know whether this would help your argument but I pulled this up on google:
VIRGINIA DEPARTMENT OF SOCIAL SERVICES Page 6 of 32 MINIMUM STANDARDS FOR LICENSED FAMILY DAY HOMES 22VAC 40-110-10 et seq. 11/93 
1. 1:4 children from birth through 15 months of age; 
2. 1:5 children from 16 months through 23 months of age; 
3. 1:8 children from two years through four years of age; [/quote]

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