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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it depends mostly on individual family ideals and values. If a family is comfortable with their situation and has placed their priorities with confidence, the result is much different than for a family who desperately wants to be one of the uber-wealthy and is even bitter toward those who have more. The attitude of the parents will be instilled in the children and the resulting bitterness and feeling of being on the outside is hard to overcome. But I truly believe that a confident and grounded FA family can have a great experience at a private school. [/quote]

Please. Stop already. I've seen several posts like this one, arguing it will be OP's fault if her kid is unhappy, because in that case OP must have modeled the wrong values or something. This ignores that some kids are just more sensitive or prone to take things personally than others -- anyone who has more than one kid can see this in their own family. 9:10 gets this. Plus, OP can't control her kid's classmates, and while her kid may have terrific classmates, it would be wrong to ignore the potential for school-age kids to be cruel, in gangs or individually, in ways OP's kid might not be able to forget easily.

Some of these things aren't in OP's control. Sure, she should model good values ... and the rest of us should too. But let's wish her the best without these guilt trips.[/quote]

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