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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We teach our kids that they don’t deserve to be subject to a toxic environment. Whether it’s a soccer team or a future job.  The key is positioning yourself so you have agency and options.

It doesn’t mean someone is too tough works the kids hard.  I’m all for that, but the toxic traits mentioned a few times in this thread are not a place where a child should remain and it is important to teach them that lesson now.

We had a child on a team with a toxic coach who was very critical of her skills and would bench her if she made one mistake even if she was giving it his all.  And she is a very compliant kid who doesn’t act up and is actually annoyed when other kids do.  This is pre-ECNL.

At one point it was bad enough that we had her try out this spring for what is considered to be a much higher ranked team and she made it with the coach being very complimentary of her athleticism.

[b]Against our better judgment we gave her the option of switching right away and she decided to stick out the rest of the season which nearly killed her love of the game.[/b][/quote]

We gave our U12 DD the option of switching to a higher team w better coaching and environment and she chose to stay...it was against out better judgement to let he choose, we should have forced the switch. Now we are stuck riding this turd around and around for another year, and she doesn't even know it.   I think there is a line between letting your kids pick and parental wisdom overruling your kid's choice an and signing them up for what's best.   Current coach isn't toxic, it just isn't good. Live and learn, now DD wants to switch and it's too late this season for better teams that are close to us. -Will likely just force switch next year if given the option.   [/quote]

It’s a tough balance.  We are forcing her to switch for the fall, but we probably have forced it sooner.[/quote]

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