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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Rip off the bandaid and do the full day. You’ve already made the hard decision to use daycare - now enjoy the benefits.

If you do half days, you still have to do all the prep (getting baby there and back, packing…), still expose the baby to germs, etc. If your work day is still disrupted, what’s the point.[/quote]

I agree with this. If youre taking the baby to daycare you're already doing the hars transition part.[b] Babies do not care if they are there a few extra hours[/b]. Youre pay for care youre not using for literally no reason.

Your wife is obviously anxious. Try to help her get over that. Presumably you discussed care and work hours prior to the baby being born. Remind her that your plan is working.

Fwiw 5 months is perfectly normal for full day care AND this is one of the easiest times of her live to have care. It generally gets harder![/quote]

Right  :lol: ....
Listen to daycare providers who actually deal with the kids and see that ALL kids need transition time. My current daycare even does a gradual transition when they move them up to the next room. Its a slow introduction to the staff, other kids, social dynamics, different stimulation and expectation. The infant and toddler rooms have similar rhythms but the needs and schedule and activity requirements/engagement for a 22 mo old are different compared to a 10mo old. Our daycare takes 2 weeks minimum to fully transition to the next room- with every single kid and they give at least 2-3 weeks in between each kid because the dynamics change with new kids/temperaments/etc. 
If you can do a gradual transition it is best for the child. 
This is entirely separate from a conversation about limiting time in care short-term or long-term.  [/quote]

I’m a daycare provider and I’m active in my daycare association. I would say it’s about 60/40 of those of us who prefer a cold turkey/ rip the Band-Aid off and those who prefer a transition time. Those who prefer transition time are only talking about a matter of a week and not a prolonged transition period. Babies adjust quickly and especially when they have a routine.

I prefer the Band-Aid method. I used to do transitions, but it was hard because when the babies fell asleep and I had to wake them up to give them to the parents. It happened far too many times that those babies would wake up the other sleeping babies. It was a disaster for everybody. And the cherry on top was that the parents would think that the babies were not adjusting because they would be crying at pick up. Of course they were crying, wtf did they think was going to happen when he had to wake them up in the middle of their nap?[/quote]

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