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[quote=Anonymous]I'm the adoptive parent who posted above.  Depending upon the age of the adopted child in question, they may accept the situation as the new normal (if they are young) or, if they are older, they may resent the new baby and start being less interested in seeing the bio parent with new child.  My DC intensely resents their half sibling that their bio parent chose to raise, but they also discovered existence of half sib at much later age.  (I actually feel sorry for the half sib, who I think would like to have a relationship with DC but DC has no interest).  The situation you describe is far better---at least the AC (adopted child) has experienced continual interest from the bio family.  But still, the question will linger in the background when they hit adolescence---why did the new baby get kept while they did not?  That's the wound that the adoptive parents need to sensitive to and they should let the AC's wishes determine exactly how much bio family should be coming around.  Biofam should not get to show up because THEY want to but only because the AC wants them to.  It's on the adoptive parents to be sensitive to the child's emotions and create an environment where the child feels comfortable processing all those feelings with them.      [/quote]

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