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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A. You're a troll doing an anti-abortion thing.

B. You're stupid. He told you he divorced over his wife's decision not to have kids. You took his lukewarm reaction as a signal he didn't want kids. He moved on to someone who actually really did want kids. And now you're left all by yourself with no kids. Congrats.

Pick A or B.

Either way, you're completely ridiculous and should be ashamed of yourself.[/quote]

I didn’t add this part but before I got pregnant, months prior, I mentioned us moving into together and he didn’t want to. I got spooked by his reaction even more so because I thought, if he didn’t want to live together and he didn’t automatically jump for joy, I thought he didn’t want the baby? [/quote]

OP.

Don't you see that you were the rebound relationship? He wanted a kid, but he wasn't sure that you were the right mother. It *might* have worked if you'd decided to keep the kid, or it might not. No one can tell you for sure.

I do have to push back on this man being a jerk. He's not. He did nothing wrong. He didn't cheat on you, lie to you, or do anything untoward. He wasn't all that enthused about you, and when you had the abortion, he realized that if he wanted children and marriage, he would need to get his act together and find someone else, so he left. And since he was super ready, he found someone else quickly and made it happen.

I can understand why you feel hurt, but objectively, he did nothing wrong. If roles were reversed (as they so often are), and it's the man who doesn't want kids, DCUM always tells the woman to leave the relationship so they can look for a man who does!

There is nothing hard to understand about any of this. [/quote]

Well said. [/quote]

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