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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a little annoyance is understandable, and I would have checked with my spouse. I also think two 20 minute drives a day for a week is an incredibly small commitment on a day when you're not working. I wouldn't think twice about that. It's the length of a long movie and not worth having emotions about.

Most people's time is not "their own." Either you're working and it belongs to your boss or you've got household obligation and[b] it belongs to the household[/b].[/quote]
Ugh. Not a fan of this. Household duties do not include doing favors for the husbands coworkers. He looks like the savior at her expense. 
SAHM here and I am home to take care of MY kids [/quote]

She's fifteen. A job is a positive thing for her and part of taking care of her is doing the minor work necessary to facilitate that. [/quote]
Communicating with your spouse is also a positive thing! One does not negate the other.[/quote]

You're right, which is why I said in my comment that I would ask before offering anything like this. As the person with the more flexible time, though, I wouldn't react negatively if my wife failed to ask me about something like this. That work is part of fulfilling my obligation to my child and my marriage vows.[/quote]

but he didn't ask, which is the entire problem. [/quote]

DP. I don't disagree with you that not asking is a problem BUT how big of a problem it is depends on many things, one of which is the fact that OP said this is something she would have said yes to had she been asked. That does not negate that her time is still valuable and she should have been consulted, but if someone asks me if my husband can do something and I know he's done it before and would do it I may say yes, understanding that if for some reason he can't do it I'll either have to explain that or do it myself. I would not sign my husband up to drive five days a week for 40 minutes round trip with two hours in between before discussing it with him, so I think OP has a right to be upset, but since she would have done it anyway, I don't think she needs to be that upset, unless of course her husband does this all the time or his reaction to her explaining how she felt about it is defensive/argumentative instead of understanding/apologetic. [/quote]

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