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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Clearly the 16 year old can learn to cook but the dad is an AH if he only has her half time and insists on making things she doesn’t like on his weeks.  Every single human has food preferences — some more than others.  When my oldest is home from school, I make the dinners I know she likes (quiche, shrimp scampi, etc) and avoid the things I know she hates (like pork chops and mashed potatoes).  I do this because I love her and want her to be happy eating with me, and because I’m not an AH.  It sounds like this girl is an only child so dad is cooking just for her and him — [b]why is he going out of his way to make things she doesn’t like?[/b]  He can eat those things the week she is with her mom.

She should learn how to cook and this is probably also an early lesson in “a man is not a plan.”  This is the kind of girl that is gojng to think twice before getting married because why get saddled with a man when you’ll have to do all the work?  
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What’s going unsaid in this thread is the answer to the bolded: [b]control[/b]. This is about him showing her that he’s going to parent on his terms and he’s in charge and she can take it or leave it. Except she can’t leave it because she has to be at his house.

The people chiming in about making a kid learn to cook and learning to eat different things are missing what’s really going on here. [/quote]

This, exactly this. Sounds like dad is purposely cooking things he’s knows his daughter doesn’t like. OP is justifiably upset. I am not one to be a “short order cook” for my house but I’m also not going to make every dinner something my kid doesn’t care for.

Op, you shouldn’t have to do this but firstly send her over with some oatmeal and honey. Super easy to microwave oatmeal in the morning and maybe also throw some fruit in if dad bothers to stock fruit. 
For dinners it would help us to know what she likes. I agree you can teach her to cook a few things and send her with ingredients or you premake something and send it. It’s far from ideal but a teenager needs to be adequately fed. [/quote]

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