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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no rules for my teen and technology other than I have access to everything and no Snapchat. She insists on going to bed at 9:30 every night and has stayed up later than that to text or Facetime ~1-2 times in the last year so idk maybe your parenting is the problem??[/quote]

OP here. I'll ignore the insult.

Your teen - and I say this earnestly - is very unique, IMO. Most 14-17 years olds do not have this kind of self-discipline, and in fact, psychiatrists and neurologists would all say their brains aren't yet fully capable of having that kind of self-discipline.

It will serve her well in the future.

But for the other 95% of teens who don't have what your daughter has, parents probably need to help them by setting boundaries.[/quote]

DP. None of us parents had access to smartphones in our teen years and plenty of us are fully addicted now in adulthood. I do kind of wonder how well restrictions will serve some of these kids in the future because the phones aren’t going anywhere. I’m not saying it’s not worth trying—mine at least had downtime in effect throughout their early teen years—but as soon as you lose the ability to control it, they’re on their own. If they have a propensity to get hooked, it’s going to happen eventually.[/quote]

Yes, but there's increasing evidence that while the brain is growing and still developing, the smartphones are rewiring the circuits and changing the dopamine receptors etc. It's like saying hey, marijuana is legal now, so if your kid is going to do it when they're in their twenties, why cut off access to it when they're 16?

People are more likely to get hooked to anything the younger they are when they start.[/quote]

It’s not exactly the same, though, because you, the parent, gave them the phone in the first place. Unlike marijuana, they really do have to learn to regulate themselves because they’re not really optional once you get to a certain age.[/quote]

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