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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does he say when you tell him that you want him to celebrate Mother's Day?

If he says "absolutely, this year will be different" and then fails, you talk about the failure. Also, it comes with an apology.

If he says "I just don't believe in it" then you have to decide whether you can accept that or not.

Either way, stop weaponizing Father's Day about it. If it's important to you from a values perspective to celebrate Father's Day and teach your kids to celebrate it, you continue doing it for yourself and your kids. [/quote]

Eh, I'm kind of over teaching our daughters to be doormats. If a man is mistreating you, show him the same kind of treatment. [/quote]

That's the lesson you want your daughters to learn? That's pretty pathetic, honestly. [/quote]

What’s your solution?

She can’t go back in time and marry a different man. She’s already tried talking to him and asking him to do better. Getting divorced and giving up half your children’s childhood comes with bigger problems. All that’s left is matching his energy and stop modeling being a doormat.

What’s your brilliant solution? [/quote]

I'm not going to bother answering you with your attitude, but I think stooping to the level of the person treating you poorly is a pretty stupid thing to do. But you go all eye-for-an-eye if you want. [/quote]

DP, there is absolutely nothing wrong with treating people the way they treat you. You are welcome to be a doormat if you wish. I refuse to be one and I refuse to teach my daughters to just take whatever crumbs they get. If you had a better idea, you would have suggested it.[/quote]

I’m generally in favor of being the bigger person, but in this case,[b] OP has tried to remedy the situation in other ways. [/b]

No harm in ignoring FD this one year as an experiment and seeing what happens.

For some people, giving them a taste of their own medicine is the only thing that gets their attention.[/quote]

You think so?

She married a guy who didn't want to celebrate her and then she had two kids with him and now she's mad that he...still doesn't want to celebrate her. I'd love to get the husband's perspective here. I think OP hasn't actually attempted to remedy the situation in other ways, I think she just keeps saying the same thing over and over again and not diving into why this matters to her, why his reaction is what it is, etc. She sounds immature, which is likely why she thinks the idea to ignore him on FD sounds like a good idea. As another poster said, enjoy your race to the bottom. [/quote]

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