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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Neither of us have living mothers. His mom died before we married, so I don’t know if he ever celebrated her. I have talked extensively with him about this matter, and him not participating is not due to a lack of communication or understanding. I’m exhausted to be honest. I don’t think it’s ridiculous to want my spouse to say thanks once a year for being a good parent. oh well, there’s nothing I can do about it.

I’m just gonna celebrate alone with the girls. It just feels embracing to be treated like this every year and for the girls to see it.

We do have sex, but not as often as we used to.[/quote]

Why is Mother’s Day so important to you? Why are you making it such a huge deal that it’s turning into a major issue in your relationship?
[b]If you have a solid relationship with your husband, you are being valued and celebrated as a mom on various occasions throughout the year, not being honored on Mother’s Day shouldn’t be a big deal. However, if that’s not the case, and you’re not even feeling appreciated on Mother’s Day, then you might have a more serious problem in your marriage than just Mother’s Day.[/b]

Does he celebrate you on Valentine’s Day, your Birthday, Women’s Day, Thanksgiving, etc., but only neglect to recognize Mother’s Day? 
I would find that hard to believe.

You have a much larger issue in your marriage than just Mother’s Day.
You need to address it. Don’t  e distracted by Mother’s Day.
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You can please just pin this for all these future Mother's Day and Valentine's Day posts? These holidays are generally only a big deal to people who aren't treated well/celebrated/respected throughout the year, in which case the failure to acknowledge the holiday is not the problem you actually have.[/quote]

No need to pin, somebody makes this point every year, in every single one of these threads. The reality is that few, if any, husbands who celebrate and appreciate their wives all year round are also doing NOTHING to acknowledge the day. Sure, maybe there's no need for overpriced, overcrowded brunches or $$$ gifts, but these guys are at least getting their wives a card (or helping kids make one).[/quote]

What's your point? The point above is that the fact that these holidays not being celebrated isn't the issue - the issues is much bigger. So why focus on a single day and act like the other 364 days of the year your marriage is just fine. It's clearly not. So why spin your wheels and get all bent out of shape because a guy who has never acknowledged you or listened you and who doesn't respect you doesn't do anything for this one day?[/quote]

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