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[quote=Anonymous]“Part of it is that especially if your parental leave ends at 4-6 months AND you have a reasonably-unfussy baby AND you have a flexible work schedule (which is a lot of things to go right, but hardly shooting the moon - this would have been me with 2/3 of my kids) it can be feasible... in the short term. You can work during 2-3 naps, work a bit after bedtime, probably get in an hour while baby is awake and entertained with toys or food, and you can keep an eye on slack and be responsive basically all day. You can probably get in 5-6 hours of work a day, which is what plenty of people are doing anyway... for a few months. And you get in a groove, and you think you've got this awesome solution, and you save SO much money. But of course naps will shorten and baby will start crawling and then once that morning nap is gone, you're SOL. And then you feel stuck.”

I think this is a good explanation of why moms try it. It was my experience with my oldest. My remote job was pretty flexible, he slept like a champ and was pretty chill. I had him in daycare (where I could go nurse at lunch) 4 days a week and home with me on Fridays. Fridays were also super slow work wise, so it worked out fine. it got a little complicated when I had 2 more and only signed them up for 4 days. I would have preferred to SAHM but financially needed to work. It was my way of kind of doing both.

We then moved when the youngest was 4 months, 2.5 and 4.5. We knew no one and had no family within 12 hours. I kept working with all 3 at home because we didn’t realize the day cares all had at least 6 month waits. I was able to flex my time and between my husband covering some made it work. I almost lost my mind until 6 months later when school/preschool started for the older two. Just having 1 home seemed like cake and we’d met a neighbor who watched him some. That being said, I was able to avoid any tantrums on calls (we were not yet doing video calls) and no one from work said a thing.

Then I got to do it all again with Covid and 8/6/4 year olds. 
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