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[quote=Anonymous]I thought about this stuff too. Not all of what your wife is thinking (girl or boyish months?), but much of it. We aimed for spring babies and actively tried for a due date anywhere between February to June. I didn't really want to be super pregnant in the heat of summer and I have really bad fall allergies, so I didn't want to be struggling against an allergy attack while trying to enjoy my newborn. We have two April kiddos (one was due in March and the other in May).

One thing I didn't think about until after I had my first, but fall also means that you've got an infant at the height of flu season. My oldest was born in a particularly bad flu year that lasted into the early spring, so my hospital was still limiting visitors even in early April (and this was pre-pandemic). There are lots of benefits to fall birthdays (being the oldest in your class, often beautiful weather for outdoor birthday parties, etc), so I wouldn't let the flu turn you off of the season altogether. It was just something I thought about after the fact.

I have a friend who was so into birth month that she was a March due date or bust person. When they missed the window for a March due date, they just didn't try again until the next year. That's excessive. If we had missed the spring window we wanted, we just wouldn't have tried so hard the rest of the year, but we still would have welcomed a pregnancy at any time.

By all means, aim for a season, if it matters to your wife, but (as you'll learn when your first kid is born) part of becoming a parent is learning to be flexible. [/quote]

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