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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because the amount of times I've gotten an apology for abusive, needy and selfish behaviour on the part of a friend I can count on one hand, and all of those times the friend went back to her old ways after apologizing.

These people always want to have an "open conversation" with you when you distance yourself--to manipulate you back into the orbid.  That's why you have to close the door.[/quote]
Yes! They just can't or don't want to change. I am going through this now. I told her I needed space -she didn't give me space for long. I told her I am trying to change how I relate to people and how much of myself I give without getting what I need -she told me she isn't changing. I told her this friendship feels one sided -she became defensive and insulted me. I wrote her a letter explaining what I need from a friendship and that I have to limit my time with those who aren't reciprocal -she insulted me again. I distanced myself again -she reached out after a month and I responded neutrally and without encouraging further contact. I'm praying she leaves me alone because the final option is ignoring and not answering her texts, etc. I don't want to do that, but she doesn't seem to grasp that I don't have the bandwidth for her anymore. [/quote]

Are you OP?[/quote]

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