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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There could have been a close death, she could have med issues, maybe she’s very hectic at work, her kids might have incredible issues, etc. [/quote]

But she had time to go to lunch with a different mutual friend.[/quote]

So? Maybe that other friend is closer to her than OP. Maybe that other friend is going through something and the friend felt like she needed to be there for them. Maybe the other friend gives something to OP that she needs. Maybe that date just worked better.

The way I see it, OP can either decide to let the friendship go because she thinks she knows what's going on (i.e. she's being ghosted), she can continue to reach out to the friend and try to figure out what is going on, or she can take a beat and see if she runs into the friend somewhere or just try reaching out to her again in a bit.

I both take people's actions as indications of their feelings and grant them grace and will seek clarification sometimes. There's no right answer - different people are different, different friendships are different, different times of life are different. All OP can do is decide what she wants, and if she's ok letting the friendship die due to a possible miscommunication, that's fine. If she wants to try harder because she truly cares about this friendship, that's fine as well. Or if she wants to take a breath and then decide or see if something happens organically, that's fine as well. There is no reason to make a decision today that will impact the friendship forever (unless she wants to). [/quote]

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