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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Both kids are young (under 6).  We started late. [/quote]

You could still have another.

I had the third and after she was born, my oldest was diagnosed as being on the spectrum. Let me tell you that holding my breath in the 16 months since she has been born waiting to see if she’ll also be on the spectrum, and if so, how severe that might be, has been incredibly stressful. I know my circumstances are unique but be sure to consider how much you’re romanticizing the fantasy of having a third as opposed to weighing the possibility of special needs and what that would do to your family dynamic, other children and careers.

Plus it’s hard logistically and very expensive financially! I am hoping it’s a good things for my kids in the long run but I feel guilty all the time trying to balance a full time career and the needs of my 3 kids. The grass might look greener but there are definite benefits to sticking with 2 - if it helps you feel better.

If not, you could still go for the third. Your older 2 are pretty young. I would not want to have a baby in my forties if I could avoid it. My third was born at 35 and I feel older this time around as an aging parent of two older kids. [/quote]

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