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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again.  It sounds like some of you assume that Andy is shy and would do better in small group settings to come out of his shell, but that’s not his issue; he actually seems confident and comfortable at school and in large groups.  My impression is that he’s just not as interested in connecting with other kids and doesn’t have shared interests.  I guess he’s a little behind socially?  He turns 7 at the end of summer.

I don’t do one-on-one play dates because I’m busy like everyone else.  I WFM, have two ailing parents, and older kids I have to drive around.  I sign DS up for sports and classes with friends and at this age, it’s like a play date.  DS, Andy and a third boy take a weekly sports class, and we hang out for a while afterwards.  Andy barely interacts with the two other boys and spends more time trying to hang out with the moms.  I think if Ann wants her son to make friends, she needs to guide his interactions more.  My DD used to have play dates with a ND boy in second grade, and the boy’s mom scaffolded their interactions by bringing board games and suggesting activities such as scooters.  I was and am totally fine with this.  And for those of you who ask why I don’t help with the scaffolding, it’s because I’m really busy and squeaking by as it is.

Ann and I used to go for a power walk after school drop-off, and I’m going to suggest we pick this up again.  [/quote]

So you say that your DS and Andy take sports class with a third kid and then wonder why Andy ends up talking to the Moms? It’s because you set up a scenario where Andy is the third wheel! Groups of three are not fair when two kids are socially adept and the third is not as much. You created that crappy situation and then judged Andy for acting in the best way that he can. You are not a good friend. [/quote]

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