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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t withhold contact. Line up some therapy for the summer. She may need some extra support in finding her groove at college. My daughter had different issues than yours but needed a lot of time and contact. I’ve never regretted being there for her.[/quote]

She had therapy which was not helpful. And to be clear it’s not like I don’t want to be there for her. I worry I am there for her in such a way it makes things worse bc sure I don’t want her to be lonely, but I also don’t want to be the reason she does not try to find other outlets. People say it will pass but I know several people in their 30s and even 40s who never became independent. We have majorly stepped back on advice bc she does not listen or then does but says it doesn’t work. There has been zero progress with our current way.[/quote]

Can you step back and see you are doing the same things she is doing? Posters are giving you advice and you are giving reasons why it won't work and aren't  worth trying. She got this approach from you![/quote]

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