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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It means she’s tired of living life like that and is done. I don’t get why you are confused. She doesn’t want to be married to him anymore and be intimate with him. Totally different from your relationship ship with your kid. [/quote]

+1. I'm really confused with the conflation between son and husband's neurodivergence. One is her child. The other is the adult she shares a bed with. I am totally comfortable parenting a child, possibly for life if they need it. This is not why I would or did marry another adult.[/quote]

Because children generally don't prioritize the happiness/contentment/satisfaction of their parents, at least not until they are well into their own adulthood.  Children see the family as a family.  There is a very good chance, even among neurotypical children, but especially of neurodivergent children, that if one family member of the family is disposable (the dad, who has genetic reasons for his condition), then they are as well.  They might think the only reason the neurotypical parent doesn't dispose of them is because legally they can't, and their existence is something the neurotypical parent grudgingly deals with.  They won't feel unconditional level from that parent.  Is it "fair"?  Is it "right"?  Maybe not, but let's not pretend these deep seated emotional wounds don't happen, whether they are "reasonable", or "rational" or not.

Let's analogize.  If kids prioritized their parents' happiness/contentment/romantic satisfaction, then surely they would love stepparents, who from the bio-parent's perspective, are far better partners than the person they divorced.  But no, kids often can't stand stepparents, or at best learn to tolerate them (yes yes I know there are many anecdotes about exceptions where kids loved the stepparents/stepfamily as much as their biofamily, but the trope exists for a reason and many kids even irrationally hate stepparents who do actually love and try their best).[/quote]
Nope PP, OP Troll.

That’s all totally incorrect.  You keep trying this manufactured angle while pretending to be someone’s sister.

Just stop, you’re making a fool of yourself.

Most neurodivergent kids won’t be thinking of either parent or themselves, just who will feed them, buy them extra stuff, give them screen time, and let them off the hook the most.

And even if there was some huge psych study that stated kids internalize divorce only that way, so what. People are still going to divorce. Being in a krappy, lonely, disrespectful, insane fake marriage will drive everyone off a cliff. [/quote]

Okie doke.  If you need to believe your kids love your new boyfriend/husband and can't wait to be part of a blended stepfamily, you go right ahead and believe that.  A healthy fantasy life is important for everyone, after all.[/quote]

Wrong thread PP! 
No remarriage or blended family talk here.

In fact sounds like OP’s divorcing sister has her hands full with an autistic child and a deadbeat Ex.[/quote]

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