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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^^ PP here.  Another thing to add is that functional alcoholics are often in great shape, have great jobs, run marathons, have families - at least my family members suffering from addicition did / do.  But they were also dependent on alcohol.  They used it.  No, they were never raging drunks, but they also believed they couldn't get by without 2, 3, or 4 drinks of wine, scotch, or gin a night.  [/quote]

I often wonder about my mom in this regard. She has wine at lunch (sometimes before lunch), in the afternoon and at dinner (less than a bottle a day). But she is in phenomenal shape at 75 and can out-hike most 50 year olds, does yoga, goes out, holds dinner parties. She is very organized and on top of everything and travels the world. She has her personality issues (is critical), but is doing much better than most her age.  Is she an alcoholic? Does it matter? I tend to think not, but am not sure. [b]PP, in what way did it matter to your family members or to you?[/[/b]quote]

I'm the PP.  Actually, it never mattered to me in that I didn't see the addiction for what it was - at least not initially.  I thought, well, this person has a great job, looks healthy, isn't acting drunk - wasn't on my radar.  For my sister, alcohol was a way to cope with stress - intense stress - on the job and became a crutch and a source of shame because she realized she NEEDED alcohol and at the same time hated herself for it, especially once she had kids.  For another family member, the wake up call was a diagnosis of fatty liver (a precursor to sclerosis).  For my brother in law, i it was that he recognized it was something that allowed him to cope with depression. He also had high blood pressure and his doctor advised him to stop drinking and he struggled to quit for several years.   I will say that each of these people are in recovery, but also that it hasn't been easy. By the way, these weren't social drinkers - if I'm remembering correctly, in each case they had their after work drinks.  Earlier drinking and sometimes more excessive drinks on the weekends, sometimes in social circumstances, but not always.  Drinking was a coping mechanism, not something to be savored.   [/quote]

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