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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My divorce wasn't quite gray. I think I was about 45 when it was all finalized, but my ex was 52. I didn't date until my kiddo left for college, and I have since remarried. My ex dated immediately after we were separated but has not remarried or lived with anyone. It's been fascinating seeing how my child has dealt with my new relationship. It helps that DH is fun and generous and treats me and my entire family really well. But my child is visibly relieved that I now have someone around to "keep an eye on me," as he puts it. LOL! I hadn't realized how much he'd been worried about me being all alone in the big house he grew up in. I hadn't realized what a burden he was going to have (real or perceived) by being the only person who would be expected to help me as I get older. My ex moved to the Midwest after COVID and that's created a ton of unnecessary stress and problems for our child to deal with. Now he has to fly to two different cities over the holidays and summer as a college student. He has to coordinate this himself. And since his dad is a weirdo, he can't ever have both of us at the same gathering.

I'd definitely wait until they're finished with high school before doing anything major. And that includes dating. Kids just don't need to share the emotional space with you during their teen years. That should be the time when their first dates and first loves are the focus within the family. They're going to spend their entire adult lives having to deal with two divorced parents instead of one parental unit. At least give them a childhood without that BS if it's at all possible.[/quote]

Unless your new husband is younger you will be still the ward of your child for end of life care[/quote]

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