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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For elementary school school lottery, we only told a few friends of the lottery results, no one at our existing IB school.  Told friends at IB school in the weeks leading up to the new school year.  Told our kids the week before school started.  
For middle school, we told our kid that night, and discretely told friends in the weeks after, mainly trying to figure out who would be joining at the new school (BASIS).  But don't do what some of the 4th grade parents did on our school's WhatsApp group - broadcast to the whole grade who got into Latin or how high their kid's spot was on the waitlist.  [/quote]

I’m the PP who opted for honesty - I think it’s crappy to not tell the other elementary families until August. What is your rationale for that?[/quote]

Because there is/was a cohort of families who are judgmental of families who lottery out of the school. I didn't want to deal with that drama when we still had to see them every school day (it's a small school community).  [/quote]

A year from now, you will barely remember these families. [/quote]

+1.  And they are probably secretly doing the lottery every year too.[/quote]

I’m curious, what do you mean by “secretly doing the lottery”? That phrase has come up a couple times on this thread. [/quote]

Not the PP but I think that this is a common mental pitfall in these threads - people don't advertise that they're playing the lottery because they're being polite, don't want to trash the school they're at, and anyway nobody is entitled to that information. But if someone in their *circle* doesn't advertise that they're playing the lottery it's because they're a sneak (especially if they *win* the lottery and the person finding out about it has not)!

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NP. I think it’s one thing to be discrete. It’s another thing to be an active booster who is always talking about how great the school is, participate in discussions about next year, defend the school anytime someone says anything even remotely negative, and never say one word to even your closest friends that you might leave. Particularly if you’re leaving for a middle of the road school that is very get-able, ie, you were really choosing higher likelihood schools.  (I think people understand that lots of folks are putting reaches like Deal feeders, Ross, etc each year and if that works out it’s a different story). [/quote]

IDK, we do the lottery every year as a kind of insurance and we don’t talk about it with our friends. We are very supportive of our current school, but one of our kids has some special needs that can make things rocky at times, even at this school we love. So it’s helpful to have at least the chance of another option if needed, but we’re not trying to be secretive about it.[/quote]

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