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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here

The fact is I have an abusive Mom and a historically angry brother who I distanced from (long before all these health problems became acute for my parents) bc of their behavior toward both me and my family.

As a result I stepped back years ago and they chose to  keep me further out.

So pardon me for needing a minute to navigate how the hell this is supposed to work. I thought I was doing the right thing by asking what would be helpful - how an arrangement would work. That was met with anger. Ok. I'm now being told to do something and I guess just figure it out bc he won't collaborate.

Ok so I guess I'll offer the best I can do and that's what it will be. I can go up the week he's away and propose me going up monthly for a week and see if that's do able.

That said I'm not available to be abused or mistreated. I will leave. There have to be some f-ing boundaries, but we are talking about people who have never had a healthy boundary in their.lives and have had zero care for me or my family for years.

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Don't go. If they are abusive and/or your brother is then your are entering a highly volatile situation that could turn scary. Outside professionals is the way to go. You don't want to be accused of elder abuse simply because you scream right back and you don't want to have to walk out the door and leave. Seriously, abusive elders will make false accusations. Not worth it.[/quote]

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