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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Buy a condo or rent an apartment when one level living is needed.  Pay for cleaners and other help with tasks as needed.

Eventually, if this isn't enough, move to an assisted living that has varying level of support so both me and my spouse can be accommodated at the same place in the event that we have differing needs.  This has worked well for older people that we know, and for their children.[/quote]

Oh- also adding- that right now, the best thing I do is not accumulate junk.  I clean our house out 2-3 times a year.  Definitely not doing to my kids what my parents are doing to me and my siblings.[/quote]

Good idea.  Do a Swedish Death Cleanse when you are in your late 50s and early 60s.  Sell everything you don't need on FB market place.  Simplify so that you or your kids don't have to do that.

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This is hilarious.  Unless you plan on living for 20 plus years (from your early 60s on) with nothing but a bed, table and 2 dining chairs, you’ll have plenty of junk.  That lovely decorated living room of yours?  When your kids have to dispose of it, it becomes junk.  Ditto your curated wardrobe.[/quote]

Better this than leaving 50-70 years of accumulated possessions for your kids. That's what my parents and ILs did. It would have been a huge help if they had even done a decent attempt at decluttering. [/quote]

Better for whom?  Not everything in this world is supposed to optimize your needs.

I assume your parents and in-laws weren’t renters, so you were cleaning out the houses in order to sell them.  [b]You could have paid someone to do it, [/b]but that wouldn’t maximize your inheritance, right?[/quote]

You don't understand hoarders

My neighbor was in this situation cleaning out her mother's house. She had to comb through everything even bags of trash. Her mother had gotten so bad precious family heirlooms (not monetary value so you don't think its all about money) were jumbled in with disposable take out containers from the 2000s (carefully washed of course.)

Anyone they paid would have just tossed it all [/quote]

Agree that PP doesn’t understand. I’m in this situation now, while parent is still alive, and it is awful. I am trying to secure their future (theirs, not mine — have you seen the cost of senior care? They need every nickel they can get from the house just to afford even a low-mid tier facility, and it is piles upon piles of trash bags filled with anything from heirlooms to junk mail to thermometers to flashlights to underwear to letters from my great grandparents. There is nothing to do but wade through it, day after day, one item at a time.

PP is welcome to join me lol. I will take any help I can get. [/quote]

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