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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t thread this gracefully. You think your son worked harder and she’s ridiculous and you don’t want to stick your neck out the tiniest bit for her.

Sounds exactly like the politics-based baseball leagues in DC with overlord parents you *thought* were friends and liked your kids. [/quote]

Can you explain how you think this should go down, at the high school level? A parent should take a coach aside on behalf of an angry friend and insist that another kid be placed on a team? And should she apologize or feel sorry that her son made it?

Tragedy is horrible. But you don't do a child any favors by snow-plowing their life. Where do you draw the line? You have no idea which gifted kids on the team are being beaten, neglected by alcoholic parents, suffering from depression or anxiety, etc. Should one of those kids, who made the team, be displaced to accommodate another child? The family needs counseling, the kid needs to find a sport where he can make the team on his merits (or do a no-cut sport), and community is essential, sure. But bulldozing your way onto a team five years after a tragedy isn't the answer. That isn't "politics." Politics is cutting a first-grader from little league.
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If you don’t think politics plays into HS sports, I don’t know what to tell you. If your kid is cut in ES, because of overlord parents, you’re already disadvantaged. Every single bb-connected parent knows the HS coaches. I cannot believe how naive you are.

Besides, the issue is OP thinks her son worked “very hard” and she’s “very sorry” for her friend is pathetic. OP wants validation for being a shitty friend. [/quote]

You seem unreasonable. In your mind, a good friend would storm into the high school coach's office and complain that another parent's kid didn't make the team?[/quote]

I beg to differ. You sound unreasonable with the mere suggestion that anyone has to “storm” or “complain” in any situation, least of all this one. I didn’t suggest that, and nor did OP’s friend.

I said OP was unwilling to stick her neck out in the slightest, and even had to justify here that her kid worked hard, when that should have no bearing on anything.

I really think if people could be honest they would get farther in their relationships. OP is not a friend to this woman, even if she TRULY empathized with her and ultimately declined. Instead she writes up a fluffy narrative to get some sympathy because she doesn’t like the negativity she’s feeling and wants justification to push that responsibility on the friend.

Of course I don’t expect you or OP to understand or acknowledge this. Hopefully this woman and her son move on. [/quote]

. Asking another parent to do this is out of line, and on principle, this isn't how life works. The responsibility is on the friend--it's her kid![/quote]

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