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[quote=Anonymous]MIL needed rehab and then a nursing home and DH and I did research on this from 600 miles away. Meanwhile MIL and FIL were driving-by the mentioned continuing care facility, every day. Every single day, a few miles from their house. Turns out they knew people here. And yet they had said they had no idea the place existed. Or that any place existed. That was one frustration.

Different parents, my parents, when I asked for their car keys, they refused. They hadn't driven in a year or two and did live in a continuing care community. We were just afraid they might decide to drive. It's helpful to have a bad-ass brother. My brother said, No worries. He disconnected their car battery. He said, it's done. They aren't going anywhere.

How we got our parents (my parents) to move into the continuing care facility is we told them it was just for the winter. They were use to going somewhere else for the winter. Winter passed, spring arrived, and by spring they were happy to stay as permanent residents in their retirement facility. But it was h*ll getting them to do it initially. After they had adjusted, they told everyone who would listen that this had been their wonderful idea. It's not like we, the four siblings wanted to be thanked, but it was interesting that our parents forgot all of their previous objections.

Whenever you can --- move them first. Then, sell the house. If you can swing it financially, move them first. They will only need to move a small amount of things. They'll take only what they need. After months or a year (s), most of what they have left behind they will have forgotten. It is much easier to get rid of things. Do not ask them about every little thing. Wait and see if they ask about anything. Likely they won't.[/quote]

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