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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I come from a family that is usually early for stuff. This doesn’t bother me a bit. I don’t care if my house is messy for family. I don’t care if I have to say “don’t have time to chat right now but feel free to hang out.” My husband finds this insanely rude for people to be early. But he also cares a lot more about what the house looks like and is aiming to get stuff done until the last second. He also is a chatter and can’t find a way to exit a conversation to save his life so he can’t just finish what he is doing. That said, he is kind to my early family (although if my family was going to be more than 30 minutes early, I would be pretty surprised if they didn’t text). He also knows to get his stuff done or hop in the shower 30 minutes before the alleged arrival time. So basically, he has adjusted.

My husband’s family is late for everything and don’t bother to let you know. For them “we will stop by to see the grandkids in the morning” could mean 4pm and they don’t call or even acknowledge when they arrive that they are late. I find this insanely rude. I have learned to adjust by just going about my day — even running errands, etc as long as I can be back within 30 minutes of their arrival. I ask my husband to call them when they should be 30 minutes or so from our house to get some sort of status. So, I have adjusted.

But OP just needs to move on and not worry about this. But also, text when you leave your house with an ETA.[/quote]

[b]It’s pretty much universal in American culture [/b]that you arrive on time or up to 15 minutes late. Arriving early is never okay. Sit in your car if you’re early.

Your in-laws being late is also rude. [/quote]

No, it is not.   Family and close friends always arrive early for moral support and helping hand.

Your ILs are family.  And they are elderly.  They have driven 3 hours and they cannot go and rest in your house? Are you raised by wolves?   Your family structures and networks are just disgusting. [/quote]

They were 2 hours early and it’s only a 3 hour trip. That’s ridiculous. They can certainly go inside and rest, but not at the time we agreed they’d leave their own house for their trip![/quote]

They also had 3 hours in which to call or text and let them know they'd be early.  My sister comes to visit quite a bit and she both texts when she's in her way and shares her location and trip with me so I can see if she has hit traffic.[/quote]

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