Reply to What do people who get cheated on tell themselves?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "What do people who get cheated on tell themselves?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was pretty suicidal for a long time believing I was unlovable and incapable of love.  Today I am no longer suicidal, but still no interest in love.  Dating is fun, but I stay in the shallow depths emotionally.

I am more empathetic to other people’s pain and distance myself from pretty much everyone.  I can’t get myself to go back to church, spiritually I am a hollow shell of the man I wanted to become.

Overall I would say I am comfortable in my resentment and decent at hiding my contempt for the world in casual settings.  [/quote]

PP, I empathize. The extensive gaslighting and manipulation my ex engaged in was something very hard to discover.  He was a good liar, and I only stumbled over an initial piece of evidence by accident.  Once I found that, my normal respect for privacy was gone, and I did a deep dive and discovered a LOT.  The positive aspect of that investigation was that I have never had any doubts about ending the marriage, despite having very young kids at the time.  The negative is that it is very hard to be interested in love when you have been with someone who has so deeply violated boundaries.  TBH, love makes me feel very vulnerable & unsafe, and I'm not sure any amount of therapy is going to fix that.  I have had a life experience that proved to me that you don't always know who is a predator until it is too late. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics