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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my kids have done overseas trips both sets of grandparents very happily sent spending $$ in euros for bday gifts. Maybe this is different bc the trip itself was already paid for? Kids were very happy to have the spending $$[/quote]

The trip is not yet paid for, of course we will cover it. At the time it just didn't seem weird to ask and I didn't even think to ask about spending money. But I feel like MIL could have reframed it that way herself if it was offensive. In any case, not worried about any of it because[b] I will no longer suggest gifts, even when asked![/b] [/quote]

What a weird reaction. Your MIL was a bit offended because you hit her up for money for yourself out of the blue, so you will now refuse to offer suggestions for gifts for your kids when asked?  [/quote]

Yes, as apparently it's a minefield topic. I'm not going to get involved any longer to avoid whatever misunderstandings from either party. DH can handle it[/quote]

That's probably for the best since responding to a question about what they would like is too burdensome. You tried to head it off with a money grab which was even worse and now you just don't want to play anymore. That's a lot of drama instead of just admitting you were wrong and not doing it again. Do you teach your children to respond in this way or do you want them to learn from mistakes and move on?[/quote]

I’m not the OP, but it sounds like she’s moving on and not causing drama at all.

In general I do agree that it’s best for each half of the couple to manage their family relationships themselves. It lessens the mental load on the wife and avoids this type of miscommunication. [/quote]

Not exactly, she's taking her ball and going home because she's so put out. I guess that's one way of "moving on" but not the least dramatic way. She doesn't need to exit with a flounce here.[/quote]

How did you come up with that insanity?

She simply said she’s going to have her husband handle gift conversations with his mom from now on. That’s it.

She’s not going to stop inviting grandma to the kids sports games or exclude her from Easter dinner. Life is going to go on as normal.

It should have always been like this. [/quote]

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