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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have sympathy for OP and I'd want to be on the more involved side.

I believe the son does not want the mom to move in with him because he doesn't see a future for their relationship.  Or he thinks letting the mom move in will definitely trap him in the relationship.

I followed the other threads.  I would be a little concerned about the mental health of the mom but unless I thought she was mentally ill or a manipulator, I'd feel okay with sharing my house for a defined period of time.  Son would have to get the rooms ready and pay some of the extra costs, I think.

I wouldn't mind playing Switzerland for this conflicted set of people in order to help a grandchild off to a good start.

There's a lot of research that shows grandmothers (particularly maternal grandmothers) are very important to human wellbeing.  OP is following along an instinctive path that has benefits for grandchildren.[/quote]
+1 
So many of the women in this thread sound like they would like to bring back the Magdalen laundries.

OP I would just embrace this. You’ve been blessed with resources and have plenty of room. Spend some time thinking about what works logistically in the house for you, Kevin, and his mom. Communicate boundaries and expectations clearly. What will you help with and what will you definitely not help with? Write down some of the important household things- she probably still has baby brain. I think you are doing the right thing and it will give you a chance to provide guidance to Kevin’s mom and to bond. My husband was overseas for 9 months of my first child’s first year. I lived with my parents and the bond they have with that child is incredible. [/quote]

Start contacting adoption agencies, STAT! If you are relatively sure that the mother wasn’t doing drugs or drinking, you should have many nice, educated and financially well off couples interested in adoption. You could even research the different types of adoption, open, limited contact, no contact etc. Let the mother know that the welfare of the child is what is most important! [/quote]

You’re suggesting that a grandmother start trying to give her grandchild away for adoption without the consent of the child’s parents?[/quote]

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