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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"She had found the keys, smashed them, and then cracked her car window — two huge cracks. Completely solo."  She smashed her keys? How did she crack the car window?

Anyway...my son never did this but he was difficult to say the least. It's VERY EASY to say...take the car away. Take the phone away. No privileges, etc. etc. But when a kid is like this, you don't want to drive them even further away. You don't want you kid to HATE you. We tried family therapy and he REFUSED! Again, you can't make people do things. Sure you can threaten, but that drives a deeper wedge. In our case, our son went to individual counseling but somehow he got the therapist on his side.  It's tough. This crap isn't easy. Soooo many of our friends SEEM to have these angel kids too to make it worse. But yes, no doubt you need to make your daughter pay for the window. I'm sure she even understands that. How long to take away the car...not really sure. Maybe until she starts respecting you better.  Good luck! Sucks!

These are all valid points. It’s very easy for other people to direct others on how to handle it but until one lives it, one cannot know. Also agree that you don’t want to do something that could escalate the situation. This is one of those situations where what works for one person may not work for another.  
I’m not sure that taking away privileges is going to solve anything right now. It doesn’t sound like you know for certain what exactly is causing these issues. I suppose it could be a number of different reasons, ADHD, childhood trauma, who knows what.  My thought is to try to talk to someone (licensed counselor, social worker, psychologist) by yourself first and try to get a feel for what might be causing this.

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