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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents best friend had a similar situation with their son. They didn’t allow girlfriend to live with them. Instead, during their sons 50% of the time, they took the baby. They made a nice nursery and raised the boy. Eventually the mom didn’t want the baby at all and the grandparents got the baby almost 100% of the time.

I would do that op. Tell the mom you’ll take the baby during your sons 50% share of baby time. [/quote]

I would do that too. What do you need the woman for? She obviously had the baby to bargain for herself, get on a meal ticket so to say.

That said, given that the OPs son and the GF have never lived together, the baby could be anyone's. First have the paternity test. [/quote]

What woman in their sixties wants to raise a baby essentially by herself? Babysitting occasionally-sure. But what’s the long term plan?

And OP isn’t trashy, as another unkind poster called her. The son needs to step up. Unfortunate situation all around.[/quote]

Sure, but if the OP takes the woman in, she'll be raising both the baby AND the woman. Remember, she has no money and nowhere to live if she leaves her family-of-origin, who seems to be more than happy to get rid of her. If she leaves, it'll most likely also mean there's no going back. Meaning, she'll be smoothly on OPs shoulders and trying to get her out after, say, 6 months... how if she refuses to leave? Once she has moved in, she'll make herself comfortable. It's her chance and she'll hope mom will force her son to marry her or something.

The son doesn't want to step up as he doesn't see the future with this woman. He didn't want his name on the birth certificate. Wasn't there a talk of hiring lawyers?[/quote]

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