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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That will leave the kids isolated with dad far away every weekend. What if they do sports or want to see friends? Why did he do something so selfish and destructive to the kids’ quality of life? [/quote]
OP here. He moved to be closer to the woman he impregnated, and changed his work role (and thus, schedule) to be accommodating to their new child.

I’m absolutely not trying to still be his wife, no thank you. But I do want my kids in school, and I do think that’s important. I don’t think it’s crazy to worry about whether or not my kids will be tardy or stranded because of him. It’s not my problem, but of course it is in the end when they are missing school or stranded there because he’s at work and doesn’t seem concerned about a real problem.

I don’t want more money from him, I also don’t think it’s fair to lose every weekend over this, and I don’t even care about having them 100% of the time if it comes to that, I just want them to be able to get to/from school. [/quote]

I think it is really best if you focus on keeping the arrangement you have and not worry about he is going to make this all work. If there’s kids are tardy or stranded, you will find out and can take action from there. Otherwise anything you do is going to be meddling.[/quote]
I understand what you’re saying, but how long would I allow it to happen before stepping in? I don’t love the idea of them missing school or sitting in the office while they wait for their dad, if I can just take them—but then that would be me solving this for them. I just don’t want them to be the losers in this, since I can absolutely “solve” this. [/quote]

You need to learn to deal with your feelings without caving to your ex. It's much, much better for your kids in the long run that you have boundaries and their father be a responsible parent, not an every other weekend dad who doesn't do anything that's slightly difficult for him.

Your kids are already the losers because their father has ditched the family, moved away, and replaced them. They are children of divorce and it is harmful to them. Accept it and stop fighting every little battle. It won't work and it's unhealthy.[/quote]

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