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[quote=Anonymous]HOLY MARY

OP, I am just reading your threads and I have to say YOU and DH are the problem. You should get into therapy immediately and try to understand how deeply hostile you are to your child, and whether you can learn a different way to relate if she is ever open to that.

Most of us who give our ACs money in college have some conditions. But you can't control your ACs spiritual belief. As a Christian mother maybe you should reflect on why your daughter doesn't believe. What you are modeling is hate and rigidity and it's not Jesus following at all. I can completely understand why she doesn't want to go to church or go to your church. But no matter what, you can't force it. Accepting Jesus and following him is a choice that must be made freely. Having your rear in the pew is meaningless.

You are making 600k and refusing to help with a USED car? The bootstrap mentality was always a bit of a ruse but it's really dead non. She's not asking for full support so she can try to be an influencer. It's a used car that you can well afford.

Let's go back in time. Instead of telling her not to pursue English why didn't you say something like, if you follow your passion that's great. But you need to be thinking about how you will make that pay you in the future. Some degrees are a pipeline to a salary, others aren't. Let me know if you want to brainstorm about this. Talk to your mentors.

The way you talk about her body is appalling. Without the other posters corroborating I would never believe you are real. Bluntly, you have done everything wrong and it would take pages and pages to dissect this.

Buy her a used car, tell her you don't really understand but know there is something wrong with you, and that you are going to therapy. [/quote]

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