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[quote=Anonymous]"Its interesting how some women will never divorce while others will do so over trivial things.

In my case I made 4x my ex salary. So as you can imagine, she is making more not working from most people because of money transferred to her."

What nobody understands unless they've had the misfortune to experience personally it is that it is entirely possible for a woman to not work for most or even all of her adult years and still live very well if she "marries well." I'm guessing that your wife sat down and looked at the numbers and realized that the reduction in lifestyle she'd experience by divorcing was going to be very slight, and so she left when she felt bored. (Courts use two guiding principles in states like VA -- the high earner "owes" the low earner maintanence at the same standard of living until she remarries, and the ratio of the high earner salary to the lower earner's salary determines how much gets forked over monthly.) This is why it's "bad" advice to tell SAHWs to get a job if they plan to divorce. That would decrease the salary ratio and thereby decrease her monthly alimony payment. Basically, PP's ex could have her cake and eat it too, given how generous some states are to women who bring in no money to the household. When you're going to be set for life regardless of whether you stick it out or leave the marriage, it's easy to divorce a high earning man over trivial things.

OP should upgrade her lifestyle as much as possible as quickly as possible once her husband starts earning $600K. And she should quit her job ASAP. Then, in about 2 years, she files for divorce and gets alimony based on her new $600K lifestyle, not the current $300K standard of living.  
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