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[quote=Anonymous]Being a caregiver is hard.

Even with her own space she will expect you to drive her everywhere, be her entertainment, provide meals, etc.  Then comes the care giving.  My mom who still works FT takes care of her mother who has dementia and other health issues.  My uncle lives with my grandmother (due to divorce), but does not help much with anything, but he has time to go on trips all the time.  My grandmother has the funds to provide for 24/7 care and refused to be moved into a nursing/assisted living facility even pre-dementia diagnosis.  They pay for aides and nurses 24/7, but my mom has to go 2x a day to give the meds (when aides were giving meds, meds were 'missplaced') and goes over to check on her too.  When an aide or nurse calls out they try a replacement but what happens if they cant get a replacement?  My mom has to go.  She has siblings all close-by (including retired and wealthy ones), but she is stuck doing everything. And we are lucky because my grandmother has plenty of $  My mom can't visit her own grandkids because of this and has caused her a lot of stress and her own health issues.

The last three years doctors have told us 6 times my grandmother will die soon, but she is still here!  Caregiving is really draining, exhausting, and stressful.  
That person becomes the priority, above your own kids, your spouse, even yourself.  My mom, thank goodness, told us that she is going to move into a 55+ community (with nursing facility) in the next 5-10 years.  She came to that realization after all the care giving stress.

Find a 55+ place and have her move there.  She needs her own life with her own friends.  You will be her crutch if she moves in even in an in-law situation which will cause stress to your own family.  [/quote]

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