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[quote=Anonymous]OP I would not be arguing for 90/10 or thinking 50/50 or anything like that. A PP mentioned supervised visitation with conditions. That's where you start. Intoxalock on his car. Breathalyzer twice every day. Urine tests, that sort of thing. You can be super reasonable and child-focused and say "Once he does all this, we'll step up to <whatever your plan is>" but ask for continued monitoring of some sort and have a step-down plan to. And you've done the work of protecting your kid at least mostly with the continued monitoring. If your DH is an addict, it's true that it's vanishingly rare that he'll be able to stop. It's also true that consequences are the way alcoholics do chose to stop. The pain of drinking becomes worse than the pain of not drinking.[/quote]
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