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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s also worth keeping in mind that kids dump to their moms. That is, she calls you and she’s the most miserable to tell you how miserable she is. It doesn’t mean she’s completely miserable all the time. I think you remind her that she’s doing the right things and reinforce her autonomy to change her situation- by transferring or taking a semester off or going abroad or whatever.[/quote]

This is such a helpful reminder. I sometimes get exhausted by the moments of negativity from my daughter, even though she really loves where she goes to school, is involved, has friends, and is generally a very happy and positive person. There are times when something doesn't go her way and I am the soft place to land as her Mom. And I always want to be. But it can be really exhausting. My friend (who also has adult kids) and I often share that after a call like this, we will sometimes worry for a couple of days about our kids and continue to think of ways we can support them and then the next time we talk to our kids, they have long forgotten about what it was that upset them. As parents, we sometimes carry that weight that was really just a bad day. [/quote]

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