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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m afraid my kid will have regrets about not gunning harder when they see the opportunities kids at  Ivy/Ivy+ schools have. That being said, my kid made it clear in high school that sleep, friends and balance were important to them. They did not “gun” for the best grades or shotgun the T-25 schools. They took a step back from a major EC where they had a track record of success to try something new and completely different when they were in 11th grade. They did not apply to any Ivies or T-10’s. I worried all the time that they weren’t taking college admissions seriously enough but now I’m glad they kept it in perspective.  Attending a T20-T30. [/quote]

I feel this so much. My kid is not a gunner either. He is a well-rounded, well-liked kid who chooses to spend his time on activities he enjoys. He is bright, but he won’t have years of post-Calculus math, research at a university, or national awards.

Sometimes, I feel like I should push him a bit more, but I feel that it more important for him to be true to himself and feel accepted for who he is. I reassure myself that he will likely end up in grad school, so the real pressure is finding a university where he will be happy, motivated, and successful.

My fear is finding the right school where he will thrive. How can we identify the right school based on visits? Will he even be accepted, given the rigorous competition? It seems most students these days have very robust resumes with awards, publications, and selective summer programs. [/quote]

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