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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’re been asked for $100k ($20k for 5 years, more specifically) 3 times. Unlucky to be at 2 schools and 1 church during capital campaigns. Your income may put you in that category or they made a mistake based on something else. 
Whatever it is, it’s not a big deal. Commit a smaller amount and move on. [/quote]

Op, yes, they said they would “offer the option” of paying over 5 years if we couldn’t cough it up today.

Whatever their alleged wealth detectives discovered - and again, we have no hidden wealth or family help— it is insane to ask for 20 percent of a family’s salary so they can have fancier buildings! (My friend who works in development at a neighboring small private said things are often based on house value — our house cost 820k when we bought it right before Covid but the value has gone up, as have everybody’s.) she said in her school they do not bother asking the regular full pay parents for specific sums and focus on the known super wealthy.

[b]Im trying to fathom why I feel so hurt and angry when you guys are right and we can just say no. I guess I wanted to feel appreciated for scraping together full tuition for 5 kids[/b], not to mention putting my younger kids in the school’s pipeline amidst crashing birth rates, but clearly those efforts mean nothing. I’ve heard that many more applicants for k this year are only children and i wonder if that’s actually an advantage because families can funnel all those resources fully to the school and they don’t even have to bother educating anybody![/quote]

I understand completely why you feel hurt, OP. You do not feel seen. In this region if you are of a family that puts their head down and goes about their life working hard and being self-sufficient, you will never be recognized in any way. The uber wealthy get significant attention and then the working poor get significant attention. Wait until your kids start applying and attending college. You will feel even more invisible. There are accolades and perks and programs for the other groups but for those who just get it done ...

And, OP, while it sounds like your kids are far off from the college years but with five children you really want to save as much of your money as you can for those years ahead. Yes, it is the tuitions. And those tuition invoices are large but it is also an extremely expensive time of child-raising that many do not talk about often. Beyond college tuitions there are so many other costs. Do not give that money away. Your children will need it later.[/quote]

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