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[quote=Anonymous]I think you need to really sort out what the real issue is, because I sincerely doubt the issue is that you need him to quit working an hour earlier once a week to meal plan and make some fajitas.

If the real issue is involvement in family life, then you need to very specifically consider what that might look like to you. I’m the big earner in my marriage, and I have a husband with his own business who likes to sleep in and then work late. I need him to log off between 6 and 9 and fully participate in family life 2 or 3 times a week. If he wants to work until midnight after I go to bed and then sleep in, fine by me. But “full participation” means connecting with us and just sort of doing whatever needs to be done. It isn’t ever going to be him cooking a meal. He has never learned how and takes him 3 hours when he tries because he can only do one thing at a time.

A lot of times full participation is doing something fun like watching a movie together. It isn’t arguing about chores we can outsource because I make a crap ton of money. When you have a lot of money, you likely need to prioritize connection, not chores. I got tired of cooking 21 meals a week and now have someone in my home who generally makes breakfast and dinner for us. That is what you do if you have lots of extra money. Meanwhile, I can go to a movie with my husband or the whole family on a random Tuesday night.[/quote]

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