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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No we don't share, nor would I.  We very occasioally turn it on if one of us will be alone in a remote place just for safety but otherwise no. I don't need to know where he is every single second and he doesn't need to know where I am. I have zero interest in tracking him and have zero interest in being tracked. I am someone that likes privacy and wouldn't be with someone who needed to be able to check on me 24/7 and know where I was at all times.

And if my teen daugher told me that her boyfriend wanted to track her and needed to know where she is at all times, I would not tell her oh that is so sweet and loving, he just clearly cares about you so much. I would tell her to run. [/quote]
It's pretty sad that you relate adult marriages with teen flings. Beyond bizarre to consider those the same situation. [/quote]

I don't associate it with any healthy relationship and it isn't something I would model for my teens or tell them would be healthy for them now or later. I don't think needing to track and know where your partner is at all times is healthy in any relationship at any age. Cell phones are definitely a convenience but the idea now that it means that you expect access to people at all times isn't a positive. I also tell them that they aren't required to answer every message immediately - that they do not need to be at anyone's beck and call. I personally think a lot of harm is done to relationships when we see cell phones as this tether and we track people and require them to answer within x minutes or else. But I get that [b]for many, they like control[/b] and so they model and teach that for their kids. [/quote]
Ah, the crux of your issue. You view your spouse having potential access to your location as "controlling". Found the cheater! [/quote]

DP: Not sure that PP is a cheater, but PP does have fears of controling behavior, maybe trauma driven. It's odd to think you need to teach someone that they don't have to answer the phone or that they don't have to reply all the time or immediately -- I  mean, duh? Most people don't actually view their phones as a tether that lets others control them, but that seems to be PP's default understanding. The use of "or else" is particularly telling -- what has PP experienced in life that causes such a statement to even seem like a real life possibility? People can be abusive, but that isn't the default position most people would take on phone ownership.[/quote]

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