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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]None, but I couldn’t live in a relationship with regular “fights” where things are heated like that. Upset, sure, but name calling? No. [/quote]

And I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where I couldn’t tell my husband that he’s acting like a jerk when he’s acting like a jerk :).

It really depends on what works for you, OP.  You need to set your own boundaries.  If something bothers you, then it bothers you.  It doesn’t matter what other people do.  
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[b]I feel being told "you are acting like a jerk" is different from being called "a jerk"[/b]

So for me. No name calling at all. Being told my behavior is unacceptable is something different. Not that I like that either, but in context it might be OK.[/quote]

Maybe, but either way it's still useless. Using a name like that doesn't actually do anything to further the conversation. "Acting like a jerk" could mean a million things. So if your purpose in having a conversation is to resolve things, there's no use in calling names. Instead, identify the behavior and its effects in a useful way. If the purpose is to be hurtful, well then ask yourself why you're wanting to hurt someone. Not a relationship I'd want to be in, romantically or otherwise. [/quote]

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