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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. She doesn’t have a phone because she’s in middle school and we doesnt need one and she doesn’t care about it. She’s still adjusting to some of the typical changes at this age, and as the eldest, she’s navigating some things a little later, she’s still more like a child than a teenager. This is a public middle school. This is the first time she swore at a teacher; last time she said something rude but didn’t swear. Thanks for the suggestions/advice, We are taking this seriously — she is apologizing to the teacher in person and will be grounded from freinds and made to do extra chores at home.[/quote]

I’m glad you are taking this seriously. I’m one of the parents who had a terrible 9th grader who turned into a great 11th grader, because of maturity and growing up and our constant trying different things and not giving up.  Not all because of our fantastic parenting, as much as we would want to believe.

My question, does she want to apologize? For those insisting on a sincere apology, will it be sincere? Please don’t force it if it won’t.  My son would not have been able to do an apology at that age because it would have been forced, not sincere and ineffective. It would have been completely pointless and he likely would have come off as still being rude during it and make it worse.  [/quote]

Disagree with your last point.

The purpose of the apology goes beyond need for sincerity. It is supposed to embarrass the kid as well. And she can’t come off as rude while giving it if OP is standing there monitoring her every word. Which is what I would do. [/quote]

I am a parent but I also happen to be a teacher of this age. I didn’t mention that in my response. Shaming/embarrassing them is not the way to go here and will work with the kids who only sincerely feel bad.  It will make it worse and cause resentment between the teacher and student for the others and make things worse at home.  If you can get a sincere apology and your kid actually feels some remorse over this and do it. Otherwise I stand by my advice.

And please, do not take the advice of the person suggesting the kid says after school with the teacher for a week to “help out.”  I do not want to find things for a kid to do, basically have them there and watch them daily when they don’t want to be there, because they swore at me.  That’s punishment for me. [/quote]

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