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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You shouldn't have told the oldest. If one is a CPA and the other two are public school teachers, the teachers will never have the earning potential of the CPA. You should have kept it quiet. [/quote]

But that is a choice they ALL made!  Unless one is independently wealthy, you don't give them less.  Anyone could choose to do the work and become a CPA or an engineer or whatever.  You get to pick what you do, and then it's up to you to live with your choices.  but the CPA shouldn't get less from their parents because they chose a better career path.

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It’s not a better career path, simply a more lucrative one. If the only way these siblings can attend the family reunion is to have their travel paid for, I don’t think it’s wrong. [b]Equity is not equality. [/b][/quote]

The parent is not responsible for equity.  They are only responsible for equality.  Treat your kids equal - especially this non-essential fun trip. 
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That’s silly. If one child needs various supports and therapies, the other child doesn’t get to demand equal funds be spent on them. Furthermore, it’s OP’s money and she can allocate it exactly as she wishes. OP’s only mistake was telling her daughter about her plans. [/quote]

No one is saying that not pay more for the kid who needs supports and therapies.  We are saying that a fun family trip is not a matter of "equity" but of "equality".

When my brother lost his job, my parents paid for their mortgage and other costs.  No one thinks that this is unfair or that our parents should give money to us.  My brother knows that he does not have to return the money back to my parents.   This is equity.

But if my parents were buying a gift for my brother for Christmas, we all would have wanted a gift too. This is equality. [/quote]

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