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[quote=Anonymous]Listen, the truth is you are in an extremely unhealthy dynamic. It doesn’t really matter whose fault it is. This is a mess, and it is impacting your kids. You have to figure out how to move forward in a way that is much healthier for these children.

It isn’t that unusual for someone to weaponize therapy against their spouse. I saw my own father do it with my mom. He would come home and talk about how his therapist said SHE was the problem. Of course, she has been dead 10 years and he has now actually recently tried to get sober and deal with his PTSD from the death of my brother years ago. So, she certainly wasn’t the whole problem. But truthfully, with a husband this terrible, she was stuck in her own toxic behaviors with him. She would walk on egg shells and not ever address any real issue, but then get totally mad about the jelly jar lid being left off. Her kids don’t look back at her as if she was perfect either. We wish she had gotten herself and us out of the toxic mess.

I can’t evaluate the specifics of your situation. But getting your own therapist might help you sort things out. If you are at the point where your own kids are mimicking him, you have a big problem.[/quote]

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