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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my kid would come in and want extra snuggles and I was exhausted (so, not often at all), I'd say that I'm very tired and ask him to tuck ME in. That works great. :)

Your story sounds a bit off. Either you are not getting the full story or the mom in question has serious issues.[/quote]
This is OP. I’ve seen her do it 
Kid comes home from school:”can I have a hug”
Mom: “no, you’re really needy. I feel like you’re not giving me space”

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Yikes! There’s a big difference between “I had a tough day and need some downtime, let’s plan to snuggle later” and “you specifically are excessively needy, so I am withholding affection to teach you a lesson.”

I basically have only said no when it’s the 17th request for a hug at bedtime or when I’m obviously doing something (making dinner, etc) that requires use of my hands.

I’m lucky that in my current job I almost always have at least 30 mins between finishing work and being “on” for my kids. Ime, it’s better to leave that at aftercare a little longer and have some self downtime so I’m able to be present w their post school needs vs picking up earlier and feeling grouchy.[/quote]

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